Public sentiment reveals significant concern and anger regarding the NRC issue, highlighting the tragic consequences of political manipulations and misinformation. Many commenters express grief for the affected individuals while holding political leaders accountable for fostering a climate of fear and anxiety that leads to suicides. The discussions also underscore the severe mental health implications and societal pressures tied to fears of deportation, as well as skepticism about government statistics and support systems for vulnerable populations.

West Bengal Government

Mental Health Advocacy Groups

When I called a hotline for Suicide prevention at 3 am on a Saturday, I was greeted by an automated message about how this number is only active during work days, 10-7. Shit made me laugh so hard I didnt attempt lol.

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The Aasra guy's reply- "ye depression kuch nhi hota, sab man me hota h" is uniquely dumbass. Depression to man me hi hoga, gaand me thode na hoga......




 I'm sincerely sorry for ur troubles though OP, i hope u feel better, because getting help for mental health issues in India, is no mean feat. 



Also, take it from someone who has failed a lot, it does get better. Have faith, trust yourself, work hard, and try to live life one day at a time.......All the best for your future

Legitimate_Winter832

I was like you in 2011-12. Super depressed. Suicidal. Twice I took a razor blade and sat in my room contemplating slitting my wrists. I had no friends, let alone a girlfriend. I was living alone in a room. Some so called friends  had only used my room to shag their girlfriends or to get drunk on my dime. I cried to sleep nearly every night or played games on my PC until I literally used to fall asleep in the chair while playing. Waking up somewhere around 4 am to just get up and plop down on the bed. Lights on.


I finally quit my job (which I actually liked a lot) and moved back home. Quit facebook/social media altogether. I was 48 kg that time because all I did was smoke and sleep and rarely ate. Like I'd have some milk, a Maggie and a lot of Cocacola like a litre a day. Those years fucked me up pretty good.

Moving back home and abstaining from social media proved to be a boon and even though i was (and still am) depressed, I was no longer contemplating killing myself.

realxeltos

I recently started treatment for my ADHD and depression at Vinoba Bhave Civil Hospital at Silvasa. And it was a very pleasent experience. The doctor actually seemed knowledgeable and there was a counsellor as well who actually talked with me for nearly 45 minutes.

Next visit which was today I was given 20 days worth  medication FOR FREE. but one tablet was to be taken from outside as it was not available there. But the given medication also costs me 300rs a strip outside. They charged me 10 rs per visit. TEN! Travelling to the hospital costed me 150 in train fair and shared auto.

Hey kiddo hang on tight, i have stood on the ledge of a building 4 times in my life and have never been able to go through with it. I stood there and my knees went weak and my heart was pounding as if i was in a horror movie. My entire life flashed before my eyes. 
Now that i look back at it, i am glad i never did. I come from a very2 poor family and state in the NE region of India. To boil down the whole situation, let's just say i was tired of being a financial burden to my family for my education and everything. I was in a happy relationship of 5 years too, but that feeling of being a burden was eating me up from the inside.
It's been years now, my life has completely turned around and i am extremely happy and satisfied than most people in life. I am just hoping you can relate to my story and know that if today is the worst day of your life tomorrow will surely be better. 
A few things that really did help me were working out and reading philosophical books, at the beginning i had no motivation for it but later on it consumed me to the point where nothing else mattered to me anymore. I was even able to turn my sadness into motivation. Sending you lots of digital hugs, hope u get out of this slump sooner rather than later

No_Confusion_3284

Well ,I don't talk about this but here we are.i attempted suicide couple of years back( not really proud of it ) I was at my home and attempted it at home.at the time construction was going on at my home .so workers , labourers would come and go.my attempt happened my brother found me and took me to hospital.it was a close shave.my maternal side of family ( Nani,mama,mami ) came to meet me in hospital.i woke from my sleep at around 2:30. They all were awake .then we started talking.they ( my Nani ,mom) started talking to me like " how are you feeling"? And all
Then my mom said " why did u do this beta ,you would have became ugly for your entire life who would have got married to you??
My Nani said " beta ,aap aisi cheeze nahi karte ,log bolte ki is ladki ke pet me construction worker ka baccha reh gya tha us liye isne suicide kara" 
When I heard those lines I was literally pissed off . somebody who just woke up from tragic thing and still in hospital u say such things to that person? Instead of being thankful to God that the person is alive and safe.

mera to phone he nhi uthaya ![img](emote|t5_2qp7h|1172)

HistoricalDegree1131

I was about to take the leap of faith (literally) and thought about calling a helpline. Apparently, the number given was incorrect and the person from the other side said it's wrong number. I was so fucking embarrassed and I decided against taking the leap. 

&amp;#x200B;

Dang, nice way to tackle the problem by the authorities. Embarrass the fuck out of them lol.

anon_ary

I had the similar experience. I had the rope and stool ready. I was at my lowest point and just lacking the courage to follow through, so I dialed a suicide helpline and was greeted by a guy, asked my name and other basic details. I told him that I'm about to end my life, as I've no will to live. Mfer laughed and told me to stop reading things on internet and disconnected the call. I fell asleep crying that day.

Friendly_KidneyStone

Bhai. Upsc aspirant hu and kaafi baar fail bhi ho chuki hu. So I know what you must be going through but take my advice with pinch of salt - Abhi teko samaj nahi aa raha hai kuch but work kr khudpe if you feel lonely join a library, Kota ka koi sub hoga udhar dekh. Inn competitive exams ki duniya main bahut bheed hai and bahut hai jinhe dost ki jaroorat hai. 
Also start journaling, VERY IMPORTANT - it will help you in organising your thoughts, likhega toh dimaag main kam dance karenge
Also join a GYM/WALK- HELPS IMMENSELY voh teko bas 15 min lag raha h usska impact but do it regularly, slowly it will shape your day- JAB KHUD KO ACHAA DIKHTE GUYE DEKHOGE TOH SAB ACHAA LAGEGA + GALLLSSS
Also JEE MAINS ke lava bhi aur papers dena don't stuck in loop 
Also I am a follower of Krishna and I have read this somewhere, it helps me immensely especially on bad days:   
अब सौंप दिया इस जीवन का,
सब भार तुम्हारे हाथों में,
है जीत तुम्हारे हाथों में,
और हार तुम्हारे हाथों में 
मुझ में तुझ में बस भेद यही,
मैं नर हूँ तुम नारायण हो,
मैं हूँ संसार के हाथों में,
संसार तुम्हारे हाथों में ॥

ThriftyGallol

I also called the Vaandrewala Foundation. At first, Nobody picked up though but moments later, I received a call from a different number, which turned out to be the helpline. Interestingly, the person who reached out to me was physically challenged. He shared insights into the foundation, praising its founders for providing him with employment and a steady income. There was a lot of household noises in the background, our conversation ended up more towards his life experiences rather than mine, he gave me an example of the owner of KFC who founded the company way later in life, saying it's never too late etc. The call got disconnected after a while though.

iSubParMan

Hey sorry you have to go through all this, if you wanna talk anytime dm me Im online 24X7 lol

ShoutaAizawaa

Mental health is a fucking joke in India. It’s just pathetic.

I’m so sorry for your horrible and inexcusable experiences, OP! If you ever want to, my DMs are always open. Loads of love and hugs from an internet stranger, who understands your pain to some limited extent. 🫂

Before I go further with comments , I want to give a bit of background about myself .. I am nearing 40 and moved to a country where winters have extremely long nights . Darkness sets in at 4.45 PM. This and other unavoidable factors have led my wife to develop depression ( to the point of actually being on medication) since July 2023 . The reason I am giving this background to you is because I want you to understand that whatever I am going to say further is based on my day to day life with person with mental health issues .

Thing to note about depression is that it’s sets in very slowly , but once it’s there first thing you would notice is complete lack of interest in doing anything ..Even getting up from bed will seem like a task . This further aggravates the situation because now it gives you all the more time to have negative thoughts and feeling of worthlessness . This creates a downward spiral that will only drag you down and from there it’s a matter of time before you start getting anxiety attacks . Ever felt a toothache that resulted in extraction of tooth . When the decayed tooth gets removed , you actually feel good .. something similar starts going on in the mind of a depressed person once you are at a stage of anxiety attacks .. it messes up the mind so much that the person having it starts thinking of ending their life as they don’t see any other way to stop what’s going around in the mind .. 

I am saying this to you so that you can understand and self evaluate at what stage are you with your problem . I genuinely hope it’s not the case , but if you are past the stage of lack of interest you must seek medical help .

If you don’t have clinical depression then there are a few things that will help you clear your mind ..

- suicide does not solve the problem, it passes the problem / burden to living ones .. think about your parents and your good friends .. you are what you are for them not because of topping your class .Similarly you would be what you would be for them despite not getting good grades or not getting into IITs

- Address worthlessness as soon as possible . Best way to do this is to stop comparing unnecessarily.. by unnecessary I mean logging to social media to check every update from your peer group . Try to understand that everyone has a different life path and different time to peak . Life always gives a second chance . If not IIT then IIM 4 years later . If not both, something else . You would be surprised to know that people who did not go to IIT or IIM are still able to make good money in India if they choose a good technology to specialize in 

- Start breaking down anything and everything you do. When chips are down and you feel worthless , you would be amazed to see what effects completing things on time has . It could be anything .. doing physical exercise, creating plan for day to day for your preparation

No_Personality_5245

It’s hard op 

It’s really hard to continue living sometimes as it all seems worthless and futile. Sometimes we have to find the reasons to live like my mothers face when she sees me after a long time. Hang on there and try to find reasons to go on 

These suicide helplines are shit in India but the pain subsides or you get used to it overtime. Try to find a good therapist in Kota. We all can donate and help you if you are ok with it my little friend just share details and your first few sessions I would sponsor

Hope you make it my young friend

i_just_got_lost

dekh bhai i'll be straight forward maa chudae yeh suicide helpline i just want you to keep living please aage se suicide karne ki sochna bhi mat if you ever think about it bas yeh soch lena tere marne ke baad tere gharwalo pr kya bitegi i hope you'll understand waqt he toh hai guzar jayega keep grinding you'll be back on tracks soon enough (although meri khud gaand mari padi hai)

Hey buddy,
Anytime you want someone to talk to, I am just a DM away.
It’s gonna be alright.

bazooka_monkey

Op im sprry tereko ye sab sunna padha. Mai masters karra hu bahar and i had to call mental health support idhar. Bhai ekdum mast thai, poora free treatment ek saal tak bas abhi koi hafte pehle hi service terminate kiya stability dekh ke. Ik mushkil hai par pakad rehna bhai, kya pta aage jake tu kuch bada karega toh sabki bhalayi bhi hogi. Ye india mai mental health ki koi bhav nahi dete bhenchod jab khud ki baap se baath kiya madarchod bola marke shev banke a jala dunga nahi chaye aisa beta all cus mental health atak gayi. Exercise kar bhai, its hard but it helps. use this link bhai my therapist taught me this, cognitive diffusion. Try to Eat good and bhai jitna ho sake bahar jao room se. its just sad ki ye wannabe tough log aake boldete hai sab dimag mai hai. Teri maa ka bhosda bhenchod ye sab dimag mai nahi hai. But please bhai kuch aisa na kar jisse wapas naa asake. I hope tu theekh hoga aur tereko support milegi bas please hold on bhai logo ka chhod par atleast nature toh miss karegi tujhe. There is a bright side 🫂

I didn't call any hotline, i didn't even know there's a suicide hotline service in India. However i did go through some therapy sessions and oh boy it took me just 2 sessions to realise how shitty and insensitive the mental health sector is in our country. I had been suicidal many times in my life, tho just like everything else in my life i failed in that as well. However me failing in ending myself kind of had a psychological effect on me about not going for it anymore. This was back in 2020-22, im still trying to pick myself up from the remnants of my past self. However things are much much better now. I agree with you brother life is tough, its real tough however we just gotta get through it man. There's no escape, we just gotta get through it. Hope you are doing well brother, im soo sorry you had to go through such shitty experiences but if you ever feel like talking or venting out or just wanna clear your mind then don't hesitate to hit me up alright? sending warm hugs to my friend and do stay strong brother 💪

I called multiple numbers and all were'' the number is not of reach/ not valid''.
Ofcourse there is no hope or a thing such as suicide.

Better to die in peace than to call or share. No body cares or even slightest understand. It is a long journey for someone to actually be emphatic.

"I have no friends".

If you are looking for a friend to share your insider thoughts, pm me. I like to be your friend.

saw_bra_guy_at_gym

It can be concluded to refer to international suicide hotline if any case arrived. I m with you brother nd you can DM me if u feel lonely.

Honest-Locksmith7710

Surprisingly or should I now say luckily looking at all the comments here but I had an outstanding experience with Vandrewala when I tried to help someone I knew. It truly saved their life and they are doing well now.

OptimalFuture9648

Maybe talk to 'voice that cares'. There was this guy who not only heard me but also gave me great advice. He was very polite and understanding. Op just try one more time and talk to them.

Uncle_Vengeance

Hey OP and folks who want help like OP, someone I know has been curating a list of mental health practitioners that charge nominal rates or are free. 
If you would like, please go through the Google doc and find someone suitable that can help you out. 

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1uEeTDdu58z8nVLbBG8o1qY2xbOhlb9TRVx5COnw2ZiQ/edit?usp=drivesdk

I know life is fucking hard, I've been going through a lot of shit recently after losing many close family members. I hope this list helps.

Edit: Copy-Pastaing the correct link, whoops.

rashichan

Bro if you still wanna talk to someone about it feel free to DM me

pujyapitaji_

Please take care of yourself, the age you are in it affects you in a different way...trust me in some years you will be laughing at this....I am saying with experience...give yourself some time and let this time go away..leave that bullshit place nd go to your hometown....be with your parents....I have lost my brother to suicide....please as a sister I am saying this is not worth it...not for you...not for your family...they will be in a living hell knowing they were not able to protect you.. I know society is fucked up ....but be strong and stand up in it's face and fight...You are precious and important.Loads of love 💕 If you feel I can personally contact you...whatever help you need...I will be available as a sister❤️

Hot-Candidate2549

Bhai mere tere se bhi gande lavde lage pare hai 
Compare karne nahi utrunga but isiliye bata raha hu taaki tu samjhe ki tu akela nahi hai jo ye sab se jaa raha 
Aur Bhai ek baat batata hu ye india hai yaha suicide prevention vaalo ko bhi ghanta kuch nahi farak parega upar se hum launde hai bhai 
Hume khud hi sab chis se nikaalna hoga 
Ye breakup padhai mei failure sabko hota hai 
Jaan lelega toh aage Jo aane vaale maze hai vo kaha se dekhega

Delicious-Table-7898

OP

For first scene - What's stopping you from talking to people in your class? 

For second scene - Did you start doing exercise? Going to gym? 

I think it's this naive and ignorant mentality of not changing oneself that harm's people.
  They should change their habits environment to feel different but they purposefully chose not to do it.

Also, you mentioned you went through a breakup, it's highly unlikely that someone would fall for a loner. I think you just don't see others as friends and distance yourself from them.

People also tend to read online and self-diagnosis themselves. If a medical practitioner is yet to provide their judgement that you are suffering from ABC disease then don't think you are suffering from it.

A proper medical diagnosis is important. If money is issue then go for a government hospital and check yourself. 

Posts like these just paints a bad impression for the kind work these organisations are doing and stops others from reaching out to it.

Remarkable-Metal-471

Dekh champ, wake up early and excercise definitely benefits, no doubt. There are enough evidences. Physiology kharab rhegi to psychology to ghanta sudhregi.

Getting on, dive into the idea, why did you call the suicide hotline rather than just going along with suicide, ask yourself and answer honestly, lies wont do no good. It seems to me you are looking for encouragement. My friend its going to be okay. Your future is going to be great, you are already putting effort for the same and failures are fine its a hallmark that you made an effort. Make sure you learn from your mistakes. Insaan ho bhai bhagwaan nhi.

"Depression wgera kuch nhi hota" try to prove this, rather than ki tum depression mein ho. Shift your sight your focus its the first step for rehabilitation. Bhai iss umar mein 1 mahine se aage ka nahi dek paaoge aur life is 10s of years long to agar aage kuch dikh nhi rha hai to ghabraao nahi waha tak pohochne ka try kro aur pohoch k dekhne ka aim kro and have the guts to face what you see. This will take you a long way in life. Life isnt fair anyway and expecting it to be fair is foolishness. 

In the end, Jordan Peterson ki 12 Rules for life padho, it helped me a lot when I was fucked. Stoicism ideology explore kro and become a strong man/woman. Weak perish, always remember, life can bring even the strongest to their knees. In time you'll have friends, go out and try to be friends with people dont find friends try to be a friend you'll eventually find some. And always have confidence in your family, share things and seek advice from atleast someone.

And learn to have fun. Dont take life seriously. You are way better than what you gauge yourself to be. Have a great life ahead. Cheers man.

sta4rkman

Keep doing excercise daily. Dekh jis din rukega uss din hi depression aa jayega. Depression thik ni hoga ye bss usse bhagne ka tarika h. Like agr itna thak jayega ki bed prr jate hi neend aajaye to sochega ni baki chizon ke bare mei. 

Busy rhega to depress feel ni hoga,  jis din free hoga uss din hi depress ho jayega.

Only way is to be busy. If anyone know any other way. Please let me know.

Nathulalji

OP has gone red pilled tard after suffering from depression.

You'll surely and certainly have a very bright future champ....hold on there ... Everything will be alright eventually...if you ever feel lonely or feel like talking to someone... I'm always here...just a DM away.. take care:)

Yo jnr I am in Kota rn if you want to meet and talk about it

AJ_COOL_79

 [This YT channel might help you a lot](https://m.youtube.com/@HealthyGamerGG)

Mahlah_Maldau

This sucks, I really hope they hire psychologists or atleast trained people for suicide hotlines. I'm really sorry you had to go through this ordeal OP. I hope you're doing better now :), sending hugs your way 🫶.

Consistent-Escape-55

Bro if you still looking for help, i would suggest buy a laptop and start with programming or do some business, depression takes place when we fail to pass self validation and thus we forgets the feeling of achieving something, programming will not only will help you make something but also after each line of code there is a feeling of achievement which you get and if you are in clg utilise 4yrs of it doing whole lot of programming and make projects.

baton912

You should consult a doctor. As you said there is financial problems in your family, so go for kota government medical college where fees will be minimal. You need a professional help. 

Punkmad

DM me I'll give you my number. You can call me anytime 24/7. I got you brother

Yr_papi

people always ignore mental health in india ! and see it like "being sad"

Skyio__

I would just freaking procrastinate taking any decision

mmmmmjjjrrrrr

One of my friend is also going through something similar.  He is his late 30s and has lost motivation to do anything.  Doesn't go to work and just sits at home in his state. We took him to a doctor and was diagnosed with hormonal imbalance. He gave medicines but those were just making him sleep all the time. Unfortunately, there's no quick fix but yes friends do help esp if you staying alone in another city. Keep your landowner informed and am not sure what facilities available there but do talk to a professional/doctor chahe udhaar lekar he kyu na karna pade.

First of all, take care of yourself man, life is too short already. 

Second, suicide hotline are joke in India, my cousin was going through exact same thing lifelong topper, family comparing him to others saying that he will be the chosen one etc.. in the end was not able to get in IIT and he tried to commit suicide at that point I was able to stop him but he tried again but at that time he tried hotline and yeah he stopped by laughing at how pathetic the suicide hotline are.

I've been in a similar situation, failed my JEE mains, was a good learner, messed up my 10th boards which took away the chance to get a toppers concession in a pu college. Was about to electrocute myself by shoving my fingers into a power outlet, all those taunts from my parents forced me to do so. But I just stopped for a second and stood there, my heart felt weaker and resisted the urge to put my fingers in.

Present day, conditions are not so good but I'm still alive learning and enjoying stuff. Couldn't care less about the past.

What I learnt is hang in there, its like resisting a hailstorm, but, if u hang in there tight, you will see the light of the day at the end.

Might not be the same for you but tolerance is all what we poor people have got.

Party_Lawyer_8487

Baaki.. did you try waking up early and exercising?

Individual-Sorbet406

I thought the magic solution to every problem was 'therapy'.

Apex__Predator__

Same thing happened with me. I called up these few hotlines, got 0 response. And that depression literally turned into anger and I texted all of them about how wrong just to give hope to a person in order to snatch it away in mere seconds. It was bad. Atm I realised how I was going down the spiral and how I need to stop it.

peachpepperpop

A lot of us there for you brother, everyone who commented spent at least a few minutes on you. You could DM and talk to me if you still need a friend. 

I thought of it multiple times, but always preferred running away without anything on me, starting a new life in a new city as a waiter in Irani hotel or something. While walking I realise how good my life is and how I could take over, always worked until I could afford therapy.

yellehe

Lol! Went to see doctor in 2014 for the same... He prescribed some SSRIs with no counselling. After taking I had severe headache and mood swings. Stopped taking it. 

Broke down in front of parents, told them I'm in depression, unable to get out of bed-having sleepless nights etc. Dad told mom... Isko free mein khaane ko mil raha hai na free mein isliye ye sab hota hai... That hit hardest. But still was not able to do anything... Mom was supportive though. She told me to see some good doctor in different city otherwise if someone comes to know, everyone will call you Paagal ( she had good intentions though)

Then after 4-6 months of my ordeal I got up one evening and joined gym. And told myself that even if I won't feel like going, I will get up and show up at the gym every day at the same time. It took me few more months to get out. Somehow survived. Gym did help. It was journey of in and out of it... Some days were just shit others happy.

Next 6 months went in the fear of falling into that hole again, but I never did fall into it after that... It took almost 2 years to completely reverse it on my own. 


And then my friend took professional medical help. He took regular  medicines. Then tapered the medicines. And got out of it in 6 months. 

So its different from person to person. 

Nice to meet another survivor.

Anakin-Skywakr

It seems people who advised have no exp or knowledge of depression. But the advice they gave about exercise works. It’s basically focusing on yourself and working on yourself. It really works .

TryAwkward7595

My experiences absolutely mirrored yours. Called a bunch of them, all either bullshit or bad advice or dead phone number or only available 9-5 M2F 🙄

stupidbitch69

Hi OP, I’m not a licensed professional but I’ve been through depression and anxiety while living abroad(the west is a whole other extreme, I got issued antidepressant after one session with a general physician not even a psychiatrist, it just made me feel like a zombie and nothing else)and I worked through it using therapy and a whole lot of reading and understanding trauma from a different perspective. My mental health is so much better than before and someone my younger self would be proud of. 

I’ll be glad to help you through this as a friend, DM and let’s have a chat

Acceptable-Site-9241

omg this sounds horrible, I was kind of depressed too during lockdown and every time I searched for easy ways to die, google used to suggest to me those helpline but I never called them. I wanted to talk to someone I really thought those helpline might actually be useful but thank god I never called them bc if they had told me these things idk what I would have done lmaoo

crispycriess

The same thing happened to me in kota but I went to jaipur for treatment. Two years of improper treatment was already passed at tht time. The doc saw me and told me to get vitamin d test done. It was super lowwwww. I was given vitamin d supplements and better in two months.

Jolly-Vanilla9124

So wht do u suggest doing in these situations, when ppl have no one to talk… if this helplines are of no use…. Whats the alternative… becz i understand it might have not been easy…

Adaptable_lemon_34

dina1195

I’m so sorry you went through that. In my twenties I called them a few times in an emergency, and these ‘professionals’ didn’t answer. So basically post 6pm, if you have a crisis, you’re on your own. Sounds like even before 6pm they’re incompetent. I’m so sorry you went through that :( I know first hand that while it’s laughable, it can exacerbate suicidal tendencies.

Effective-Delay-3088

you are lucky you got call picked up tho....not one single one of them picked up and i was greeted with automated calls about their work time being over.....and then next day one them called asking if i had called...that pissed me off like man, whats the point....i wouldnt have been here to pick up

KeanuReevesNephew

Inko suicide hotline pr bithata kon hai??mtlb thik hai yr agr tumko yhi bolna hai ki exercise vgera kro..pr uska b ek treeka hota hai bolne ka.. Kitna desperate hoga vo bnda jisne tumko is condition mein call kri hai..usse at least thoda sympathize toh kro..at the moment vo emotional distress mein hai..usko emotional support ki jrurt hai..baat kro thodi usse dhng se..aise b toh bol skte ho na "It's ok..we understand your problem but trust me these emotions are temporary.. they'll go away...try to rest..and do some exercise once you feel ok.. it'll help you with managing stress further..all of us are dealing with it.. we've to manage..We can" something like this yr..pagl kahinke..unse accha mujhe bitha do..job b mil jyegi🙂aur logon ki help b hojyegi

Top-Emphasis-5143

First of all we are glad you didn't go through your plans that day. Realise that mental health is still a new subject in India and surrounded by taboos and stigma. Mental health requires trained and empathetic professions and in my experience that you can only get if you pay.

If you can afford, I'd suggest consulting a therapist.

Kaamraj

Genuine question, when someone tells you they’re depressed how are you supposed to help them, I think parents and other people telling it’s just in your head, do exercise is just a deflection mechanism, since don’t know how to actually help.

zaerrc

I’m currently in your position, and though I don’t have any suicidal thoughts this chronic depression has made my life hell and lack of mental health awareness in India complicates it even more. There’s so much unnecessary stigma associated with this problems, even when India has perhaps such a huge chunk of mental health problem affected individuals. Talking to a psychiatrist is seen as the person being some kind of a nutcase, and somehow sleeping off the issues is a magic pill for it lol

ChiglaNigla

Atleast they made you laugh at them.

How messed up they are compared to our problems.

Thedarkxknight

Apart from the mistake of the ill knowledged individuals that you encountered

I want to take a moment and call out our school curriculum for this whatabouttery 

When we are taught about hormones, different body system etc. Why are important hormones like cortisol, adrenaline, dopamine, serotonin and oxytocin be given a complete miss

Like mood is controlled by serotonin
Like love is controlled by oxytocin 
Like reward system works through dopamine 

Like depression is true cause there is a obvious Darth of dopamine/serotonin which can eventually lead to greying of brain cells.

Bhai Dm me if you want someone to talk with![img](emote|t5_2qp7h|1312)

Late-Student9218

This is so real. Once I was having anxiety attack and was having trouble breathing for 3 days straight, I went to an OPD for some medication help and when I told the doctor I am having anxiety he straight up told me that its my personal problem , anxiety and depression stuffs. Wow. I went to a better psychiatrist and he was a patient listener and I took medication for a year. That was peak covid time. My life situations got better also. Now I’m at home again unemployed, so the anxiety is sipping in a bit again but Im trying my best to keep it under control. 
Good wishes for you.

noturwaifu_

Thanks for sharing this man. I'll let some of my friends know about hai who usually boast about the "helpline" available for all in our country.
Nevertheless glad to also know you are better than before.
P.S. cool username.

oxymoron_anonymous

It's nice and heartwarming to see that you survived those tough times bro and even helping others who might be facing similar conditions . may god bless you![img](emote|t5_2qp7h|1617)

anshpandat

I am sorry to hear that, and hope you are in a better place right now, (MENTALLY, ON EARTH I MEAN!)

The concept of Mental health continues to be a joke in India rn.

I went to a shrink to get out of a rut, and just twice because her charges were 2k per session, but it did help me a lot.

Planning to go again someday because ab arranged marriage waala stress aaya😭🤣

That’s the best bet for those who are in at a bad place now. Borrow or save money and just go to someone recommended by others who are faring better now.

fameboygame

Had a really weird encounter with multiple therapists, they want to guilt trip you and milk your traumas for money instead of helping you process your traumas and one even prescribed me with some weird costly meds that I didn't buy

skibbidicurrycell

Would not agree with "yeh depression wagerah kuch nahi hota". I'm not too technical in this field but yes, even when I was miserable two years back, forcing myself to exercise and joining my favourite hobby which is badminton led myself to naturally make friends and have a social life. Physical activity and social life naturally releases serotonin, stress reliever and anti-depressant hormones 

I'm not completely okay as of today but better than not getting out of bed, showering, speaking, my brain functioning was affected and alcohol/ciggs seemed an attractive choice back then.

Sufficient_Cellist_1

EVERYONE HAVE FRIENDS???
Fking what? Most ppl i know from Reddit or IG or games have absolutely no friends irl.
That hotline responder is so out of touch of current situation of most people

snowflaksis

Indian suicide helplines are the WORST! I remember back in 2020 I was in my extreme and dialed up one.. A lady picked and she was sooo uninterested, it felt like I was the one trying so hard to keep up the conversation.

Sensitive_Peak-

I am the same age as you and was also in a similar phase some months back tho I didn't attempt to harm myself or anything but I literally didn't care about anything and just day dreamed all day. Even if I knew that I have an exam tomorrow I didn't study shit just got up and gave exam then the same shit continued everyday. I never liked to entertain the idea that I was depressed I mean who tf wants to be depressed? While I still do not know if I was depressed or not as I hadn't been diagnosed. I don't think you should believe that you're depressed without consulting a professional. Whether I was depressed or not I do not know but what helped me was changing my habits and doing small things daily. Like I didn't even use to brush everyday and bath as it was winter season then I started to brush everyday two times it made me feel really good. I was always lying on my bad in as bad as a posture could be then I started to sit on a table chair which made me less lazy and also started standing and walking around in the house more. I also started exercising daily not with the expectation that it's going to cure what I had but I just did it and it made me realize how pathetically weak I was so it gave me something to work towards. Now my next goal is to gain weight and build an aesthetic body. I also started talking with my family members more and going out whenever the opportunity presented itself. 
While I still don't know what exactly I'm going go to do with my life but I'm in a much better place mentally and what made the biggest difference was changing my habits. What I realized was that earlier I used to think that first I need to come out of this "phase" Then I'll be able to do anything else and live normally but that isn't what helped me I just started doing things and building good habits and I didn't even realise when I came out of it.

Please don't get me wrong, they were poorly equipped people and shouldn't be sitting where they are sitting.  They infact can very well give the final flick and it scares me.
 But, there's some truth to the advice of waking up early and being out and about in the sun. Apart from the endorphins, Vitamin D is crucial and linked with depression.

OP, please please get your Vit D levels checked once. 

And, I am very proud of you for battling what you are feeling and making an effort each time. ❤
Allow yourself to feel what you are feeling but do not act on any of the thoughts that say it's not worth

Jumpy_Evening_6607

Oye op meko bhi anxiety hai dm kar main teko kuch cheeze bataunga Jo meko help ki put it takes time vaii

No-Brilliant3998

Hey Op, I am sorry you had a terrible experience. But I am happy to listen if you feel like talking. Hit me up whenever :)

Gyaanistranger

Listen carefully I am going to advice you for life "no one knows anything, you are on your own"

Yeah, everything is business. One day theybjust start calling themselves mental health experts and next day they become one.. that's how it works.
Same goes for financial advice, no one knows anything. You have to figure it on your own.
Same goes for health, medical.. doctor will tell you what they are doing and assuming. 


My next advice to you.
No one cares if you die or you in depression. Your parents cant pull you out no matter much.they going to give you sympathy for some years as soon as you hit 30 you will be a liability.
They going to pressurise you saying you been good for nothing. Same for wife, sibling.

Hold yourself, analyse yourself and research but first accept you lost. Then start, bcz once you lose you are at zero. Make plans for a decade not year.none of your friend must be thinking about decade. If you are flunking at college.. chill get into ba and start preparing for govt exam.. now you have 3 year head start..

Just change the game

gvimal710

I've called these hotlines on multiple occasions in genuine episodes of mixed anxiety and depression. 90% don't pick up. The others are rude, impatient, inconsiderate, have a very narrow outlook in life almost as if they are not trained at all. I found 1 good helpline counselor who actually called me back to check if i was okay somehow. I appreciated that a lot.

I am so lucky and privileged to have excellent private psychologists and psychiatrists, very invested in me and solving my problems step by step. There is no comparison in knowledge, empathy, understanding and passion.

byrdebox

It's equivalent to say, ye Cancer vancer kuch nai hota, sab sirf body me hota hai, like yes, that's where it's supposed to be, depressed agar brain me nai hoga toh kaha hoga, it's horrendous how people downplay depression as just a scratch.

GoodGuy_dynamite

I have been searching for a physical lab test report that could say I have clinical depression (just like hypothyroidism or a hole in a heart). I haven't found one yet. Until we can have an objective diagnostic test that can determine the condition, we will be ridiculed and laughed at by the 'sane' people.

Much more research funding &amp; coordinated efforts are required to understand the human brain. Sadly, the government, billionaires, and NGOs do not care.

d-ee-ecent

Hey Friend,  if you feel like venting or anything you can always talk to me ( in the dm ) . Since we will be anonymous you don't have to worry .

Bruh reddit and other social media is probably better than these so called "hotlines" I mean, i'm pretty sure there are subreddits for people to just go and text with people

Many_Preference_3874

Why don't you try icall at tiss, I found their reply to be really educated, it helped me feel so much more better. They have both calls and mails available.

juicy-ginger22

Vandrevala is trash. I messaged their WhatsApp and asked them to help multiple times and there was still no message. Not even an automated one.

Physical counselling is the best.

Aggravating-Car-2085

well, the fact they didn't respond well made you angry and move your focus to elsewhere, so much so that here you are writing a post on Reddit detailing how it is not good and what can be done, you found a new distraction and are actually trying to make a difference in the World. Win-win.

depy45631

Totally relatable.
I am no expert in the field but can lend an ear.
Please feel free to drop a msg in my inbox and I promise I'll talk to you. And try to help ❤️

ClumsyIndian

Erm they are very right about the exercise though... It did help me, not in the starting but gradually i noticed the results in me, I'd be less sad and my emotional breakdowns descended from 5 to 1 and now none. It's been 3 years now and I continue my 2 hours walk. No music no phone. It took me 3-5 months to accept this regime mentally but once it happened i was at a happy place.

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CooperBad

Agr aisi hotlines h to I don't think bnda suicide krega🤔 but murder zrur krdega  hotline waale ka🌚

Naruto_Uzumaki_leaf

Kid, you don't need to die... You don't have to be the best in the world.. you're way better than most folks.. don't get into rat race.. live your life peacefully.. we can have a conversation over call ? You can DM if you ever need to talk to someone. Not just you but anyone here for that sake.

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